Without doubt, I know that girls lack confidence. So, how do we cultivate confidence and a positive self-efficacy -that “I can do it” attitude? The easy answer is competence. Confidence is the natural outcome of competence and skill development. The more girls put in the time and practice developing their skill set – whether it’s baking and cooking, ice skating and swimming, or computer coding and web design (or all of these skills), the more they experience that – with time and effort – they can get better at skills and they can do…
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Girls’ Brains
Did you know that girls’ brains are different from boys’ brains? In fact, female brains have more synapses (connection) than male brains. Female brains also have a bigger corpus callosum (connecting area between the two hemispheres). And, female brains are approximately 6-10% smaller than the brains of their male counterparts. Girls use both sides of their brains much more often for activities and their brains develop at a faster rate than boys. Also, their brains process information differently than boys – because girls have language processing neurons on both sides of their brains they…
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All Smiles
Girls smiling when they are genuinely happy and proud of who they are…doesn’t this sound amazing? So often I find girls are quick to smile but a smiling face doesn’t always truly reflect how they are feeling on the inside. For example, they may have had a bad day when they were left out of a conversation, experienced an embarrassing moment when they were bold enough to answer a question in class but answered the wrong question, or they may be feeling “not good enough” about themselves when they didn’t make the volleyball team.…
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Loving Yourself (Even When It’s Hard)
Loving others can seem so much easier than loving herself. You may have noticed how much comfort and care she can extend to a friend who has had a bad day and, yet, she will be the first to reprimand herself for the slightest “oops” or error. If love is not in this order – you first, then others, I feel she is going to set herself up for disconnection, emptiness, and loneliness. Loving yourself has become so cliché these days. “Just love yourself”, people say. What, exactly does that mean and do we…
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Girls and Social Media
Snap. Tweet. Post. Repost. Like. These are the social media verbs that you’ve probably heard mentioned on a daily bases. Girls are fascinated and obsessed with social media. If you ever want to connect with her and don’t quite know how to enter her world, ask her about her online life. She’ll light up as she shares what she’s been posting, how many ‘likes’ she’s getting, and the length of her Snapchat streak. Social media and connecting through Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook has become popular beyond measure and a growing girl’s best friend. Around…
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Supergirl Strong
My hope for girls (and I am sure this is your hope too) is that they can feel like superheroes! Meaning, they can feel empowered, strong, and on solid ground – secure, confident, and certain in who they are. In preparing to write my book I came across research on the superhero pose. Curious, I wanted to know more about the science behind this pose and why I should try it too. There is a scientific study that claims that if you stand in superhero pose before a job interview, a presentation, or any…
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It’s Time
It’s time…to let you know my book, Growing Strong Girls: Practical Tools to Cultivate Connection in the Preteen Years is now published and will be officially released on September 1, 2017! In the meantime, you can pre-order it on Amazon. AND, with every pre-order of my book on Amazon, you’ll receive a complimentary copy of the e-book a month before it goes on sale. Simply email Paris Spence-Lang at LifeTree Media at: info@LifeTreeMedia.com If you are wondering what it’s about…here is a sneak peak: Girls today face incredible pressure to grow up fast and…
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